Feeling alone is something everybody experiences at some point. Some people are evidently alone and others are alone even though they have many people around. It is often that we feel out of place and misunderstood. How can we possibly understand everyone around us and even more so ourselves. In this article I will provide you with some tips on how to feel less lonely.
I am so sorry if you do at this point and there is no shame in it. The fake positivity of nowadays is not helping a lot of people and makes everyone avoid feeling what is actually going on. When we do not want to face what we are actually feeling, there is a tendency to grab towards alcohol, fatty foods and overspending money. So that takes us to our first tip:
1. Sit in the uncomfortable feeling
Feeling uncomfortable is something no one wants to experience. However, only from a place of facing your fears of being alone will address it. The emotions that come up with the feeling of being alone will lead to the required answers you need. Any emotion that makes you cry, let it all out. There can be so many reasons we feel alone. We can feel misunderstood, forgotten, a fear of abandonment might haunt you or simply you feel out of place. Simply there is no one like you, and if you can see the beauty of that and that brings us to step 2.
2. Understanding that you are unique
By feeling misunderstood, you can also see it as a unique perspective. Many of the leaders nowadays released innovative products or became leaders because of their new ways of thinking. You are not weird, just unique right? If we look with different lenses and a new perspective on life we might not feel as weird as you think. From a higher perspective we are all unique in our own ways, but also very similar. We are all here struggling with certain aspects in our lives.
Some people have a blockage when it comes to money, others do not connect well when it comes to friendships and for others love might be unattainable. There could be plenty of reasons we feel left out or forgotten, but the reality is, there is always a higher power behind you. Loving you, appreciating you and hoping this reflection you will bring back to your self.
3. There is no shame in feeling alone
Many people feel ashamed doing things alone. Making up excuses why they are single, or doing an activity by themselves. As humans why do we shame people that are brave enough to face a challenge alone? When we start appreciating the wonderful human beings that are doing things by themselves, we can also applaud ourselves for doing the same. Being in a relationship or not, the most important relationship we should have is with ourselves. Feeling alone in a relationship, simply relates to a gap that you are looking for.
The only way to find that is in silence, in a deep knowing we need to dive into our psyche. Only then we figure out, we have all the capabilities we want to not feel lonely. By doing our life purpose and all that we love. Our life purpose is not that thing that makes us money, it is the very thing we enjoy most doing when money would not be in the picture. Don’t we owe it to ourselves to do what we love?
4. Being alone helps you face your demons quicker
Our dark side is often hidden within ourselves and most of us do not even want to look at it. Some things are unconscious and brought over from family to family in the form of generational family karma. If we spend this time feeling alone diving into the big “WHY,” we might be able to understand that a lot of it could have to do with the way we were brought up. Also what is it exactly that we want from another person to make us feel less lonely. If you understand what that is you can find that within yourself.
Do you want someone to guide you, validate you, help you or simply confirm your feelings it is time to do this all to yourself. Once you have found these aspects within yourself, you will be surprised how other people start to give you exactly all those aspects that you admired so much in others and were craving for.
5. Alone time can bring you realizations of life and your life purpose
Feeling empty and alone might have a lot to do with a lack of direction and purpose. Often we are looking so much into our duties, that we forget what makes our heart sing. It is time to go back to the core of your being and see what you enjoy doing most. If you are not sure you can look back into your childhood and see what you loved doing. Another way of exploring your purpose is by looking at your gifts and talents, or trying out distinctive hobbies. Trust that the universe will lead you to where you need to be.
6. Alone or independent?
Spending time alone makes you feel like you are locked in a cage. Especially during the corona times where we were forced to spend a lot of time alone (at least many of us). Didn’t a lot of people make huge realizations during this time? That is because you became aware of certain feelings that have been lingering in your body for a while.
Are you alone or independent? It is again about the perspective. Life can be seen from many corners, it is up to you what that perspective is. Being along might as well make you more independent, and being independent might lead to making brave decisions. Do not be afraid to date yourself, it might be the most fun and daring thing you have ever done.
7. Go into nature
It sounds a bit cliché, but going back to nature and the root of all you can re-find yourself and the meaning of life. Looking at the beauty around you that during normal days you do not get to see. Spending time alone with a journal in nature might bring you more possibilities of finding your your next steps in life. Just enjoy the moment, take a huge breath and you know you will be just fine.
How to not feel so alone conclusion
In conclusion, feeling alone is a universal human experience, one that can challenge us but also lead to profound personal growth. By recognizing and addressing these feelings, we pave the way for a richer, more connected life. Whether through introspection, embracing novelty, or seeking guidance, every step taken is a move towards a fuller understanding of oneself and the world around. Loneliness might start as a hollow echo, but with effort and intention, it can transform into a resonant chorus of connection and understanding. Embrace the journey, for it’s not just about finding companionship with others, but also rekindling the relationship with oneself.
The Mindful Magazine